is There Need to Believe??

“The world will continue to rotate, daytime will turn to-night regardless of whether you believe in something, someone or anything..” this is how my friend blatantly puts it to me in my face. Today as we had a chit-chat with my friends,we all got lost into an un-ending discussion..it was all about whether it does anyone any good in believing in something whether in God as Christians do, in an ultimate being, in our instincts, in money, in wealth, in love, in families,e.t.c you name it.It is not surprising to hear that most people don’t believe in God but believe in a supreme being or an ultimate being. Worse of is that despite of not believing in God, Muhammad the prophet or  in other forms of god, people still have a high tendency of believing.But then, does it serve us with any good in believing..or is it that we as humans, have to seek some dependency on something due to our vulnerable ways of life? One thing that is clear in all that we believe in is that, we hold it dearly to ourselves, cherish it with all our hearts and the thought of detaching from it and not being part of our life, leads to discomfort and a feeling of lack of  identity. Secondly, having to believe means that there must be some degree of conviction, such that at the point of believing in something or someone, all others have been fully eliminated, and through personal justification guided by discernment, you now are okay with that. Thirdly, what  intrigues even  more is that,a believe is prone to change, it is bound to change, it can be easily swayed and furthermore, it can be ‘sold-out’ to other people. I don wanna be the one to pass a judgement whether having something to believe in places us in a better position, some of us tend to have it that way, others not believing in anything makes them independent from delusions that come along with the believe. Lastly, it is all about the comfort that is derived from all our choices and the responsibility of the decisions that we make.Whether the make or destroy us up to us.

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is There Need to Believe??

“The world will continue to rotate, day will turn to night regardless whether you believe in something, someone or anything..” this is how my friend blatantly puts it to me in my face. Today as we had a chit-chat with my friends,we all got lost into an un-ending discussion..it was all about whether it does anyone any good in believing in something whether in God as Christians do, in an ultimate being, in our instincts, in money, in wealth, in love, in families,e.t.c you name it.It is not surprising to hear that most people don’t believe in God but believe in a supreme being or an ultimate being. Worse of is that despite of not believing in God, Muhammad the prophet or  in other forms of god, people still have a high tendency of believing.But then, does it serve us with any good in believing..or is it that we as humans, have to seek some dependency on something due to our vulnerable ways of life? One thing that is clear in all that we believe in is that, we hold it dearly to ourselves, cherish it with all our hearts and the thought of detaching from it and not being part of our life, leads to discomfort and a feeling of lack of  identity. Secondly, having to believe means that there must be some degree of conviction, such that at the point of believing in something or someone, all others have been fully eliminated, and through personal justification guided by discernment, you now are okay with that. Thirdly, what  intrigues even  more is that,a believe is prone to change, it is bound to change, it can be easily swayed and furthermore, it can be ‘sold-out’ to other people. I don wanna be the one to pass a judgement whether having something to believe in places us in a better position, some of us tend to have it that way, others not believing in anything makes them independent from delusions that come along with the believe. Lastly, it is all about the comfort that is derived from all our choices and the responsibility of the decisions that we make.Whether the make or destroy us up to us.

is There Need to Believe??

“The world will continue to rotate, day will turn to night regardless whether you believe in something, someone or anything..” this is how my friend blatantly puts it to me in my face. Today as we had a chit-chat with my friends,we all got lost into an un-ending discussion..it was all about whether it does anyone any good in believing in something whether in God as Christians do, in an ultimate being, in our instincts, in money, in wealth, in love, in families,e.t.c you name it.It is not surprising to hear that most people don’t believe in God but believe in a supreme being or an ultimate being. Worse of is that despite of not believing in God, Muhammad the prophet or  in other forms of god, people still have a high tendency of believing.But then, does it serve us with any good in believing..or is it that we as humans, have to seek some dependency on something due to our vulnerable ways of life? One thing that is clear in all that we believe in is that, we hold it dearly to ourselves, cherish it with all our hearts and the thought of detaching from it and not being part of our life, leads to discomfort and a feeling of lack of  identity. Secondly, having to believe means that there must be some degree of conviction, such that at the point of believing in something or someone, all others have been fully eliminated, and through personal justification guided by discernment, you now are okay with that. Thirdly, what  intrigues even  more is that,a believe is prone to change, it is bound to change, it can be easily swayed and furthermore, it can be ‘sold-out’ to other people. I don wanna be the one to pass a judgement whether having something to believe in places us in a better position, some of us tend to have it that way, others not believing in anything makes them independent from delusions that come along with the believe. Lastly, it is all about the comfort that is derived from all our choices and the responsibility of the decisions that we make.Whether the make or destroy us up to us.

“Young And Promising” V.s “Young and Vanishing”

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Bad company ruins good morals”…the proverb says.Is bad company the only stakeholder in ruining the good morals? some inner voices tells me that a third party is involved in these topic.

To begin with,morality is the differentiation of intentions, decisions, and actions between those that are “good” (or right) and those that are “bad” (wrong). ‘The key word is the differentiation of intentions’……this carrys the whole meaning and it’s where the contentious issue is lying.The second part is determining what is good and what is bad.How one differentiates his or her intentions and how they choose the right from wrong, sets up our ground of judgement on who is to carry the blame for the rising moral decadence in our society, and moreso to the youths.

Last night i was watching a programme where there was a heated debate on morals and the youths.The question at hand was who has gone loose, is it failure in parenting,the influence from the media,lack of personal responsibility,or even its just permissiveness among the youth?

One mans meat is another man’s poison, similarly, what one could really call good in their eyes, could as well qualify to be filth to another.But doesn’t something good remains good and something bad (wrong) remains bad. How good is good? and how bad is bad?.Does a justified wrong make something to be good? in answering these questions, a deeper understanding is reaped and squarely the answers lies between the person who is guilty and those that surrounds him or her.

As i was sitted there listening attentively to each interviewee giving their point of view,something in me repeatedly continued to whisper in my ears that, it’s a shared responsibility.”The patient may be the young lad or lady, but the surgeons to operate on the disease”(moral decadence) are all around the ‘dying patient’.They highlighted a number of evils starting from early engagement in sexul intercourse from the age of 10-years,uncontrolled alcohol consumption,homosexualism,lesbianism,shooting of unprohibited films(porn) in the name of money making,name them.

Like they say...the apple does not fall far away from the the tree, if the parents happens to have been victims of the same, it is not a surprise when their folks choose to take part on that path.If again they didn’t give the necessesary advice,then they faulted when laying the foundation,then its crystal clear that they  will assume the same line.

Similarly,the teachers who are the opinion moulders of the child in his or her upbringing didn’t take care on setting the  moral principles, they too have questions to answer and a part that they have played in the “script'(trending on wrong direction).

The media has ofcourse has played quite a substantial role in corrupting the good morals of our young men and women.The airing of questionable content without care of whose eyes it lands on,has been the greatest tragedy that we have experienced.The justification of that its a matter of personal responsibility and personal choice,remains vague and indespicable.Responsible journalism is not a request but a necessity to the society.It is tantamount to the whole population.

Lastly, of the greatest importance, remains personal choice,which has to supersede the other factors,it has to take toll.The intentions of partaking in something,solely remains with an individual.The definition of good or bad is autonomous, i mean it remains ones moral duty to acknwoledge what is good to be good and what is bad to be bad or wrong.One’s desires should be kept at bay and only be considered when positive intentions are purposed to give positive results.Let the young remain ‘young and promising’ but not ‘young and vanishing’!!!!!

6 Ways of Getting Prepared For a Test

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Who loves tests in life, who can really claim that they find it easy to face challenges head-on,or who can thump their chest hard and tell the world that exams, interviews,interrogations form the best moments of their lives.Possibly none ( if there is) .

One thing is crystal clear here that such moments are quite bothersome,distressing,head-scratching and above all characterized with nervousness.This is because, despite of how well you could be prepared, you always find yourself running short of materials, wishing more time could be accorded to you before you face the bull by its horns.This to many, would sound unusual or one could conclude that they are not good in handling exams,interviews,test drives e.t.c. It is very normal though the pressure that comes along with it is tormenting.

Secondly,such moments provide a platform for one to reveal who they really are.It gives one a chance to parade their strengths and their abilities,it is a runway to po tray and show the world who and what they are made of.When taken seriously, it is time for personal building in terms of confidence levels,expressing oneself in the best way possible.It is at these time one has to put there best foot forward and get out what you have been holding onto.

To add to the list, many are the times we find ourselves trapped between our fears,yet we want to get the best out of these trying moments in our day to day lives.We let the fear of ‘how will they think of me’ envelop us.We cease and forget that its me who is at stake not them.We keep on living in the shadows of others over and over again.Self-doubts creep into our minds and what happens eventually is that we are stuck again in the murky water of mediocrity.It is these provoking thought that has fuelled me to give some tips of how well one could end up being at the end of the many tests we occasionally find ourselves in,

1.Be real- by these i mean,you have first to look into the mirror and say, this is who i am.Accept the fact there is only one you and you should be allowed to relish in your own uniqueness.Present the best version of yourself.

2.See the end not the beginning– visualizing the outcome,provokes your creativity,you simply don’t want to fail.Be motivated by dangling carrot in front of you just like the proverbial donkey.Make it that you can see that which is your target.

3.Use your mantra– (words that you believe in) having a phrase that you believe that has a psychological power over you goes ahead in giving you the right attitude for that time.Whispering them to yourself or allowing the words ring in your mind,stirs up your thought process.

4.Consult with yourself– this means before you swing into action,let every component of you be in agreement with what is to be uttered,that is,coherence of the mind and the body language.This boosts your articulation.

5. Be precise– factor in quality,be exact with what is asked or required of you,produce all known facts by you without giving contradictory information.This helps one not to get out of the scope of   the test.

6. Own up the test– if it involves demonstration, do it as if it were your invention and you want the world to know it.If it involves coming up with a script for marking,quote the relevant supporting information to show that you really did your assignment.Let the person under your scrutiny identify with your content.Let  his or her sense of logic fit into yours.

Lastly,tests make us stronger whether we pass or fail.It is the epitome of any learning that happens to us.Nobody who can tell of how good or a master they are in that field.It is a matter of stealing the moment in the best way possible that makes the difference.It starts with the way we tune our mind,the path we let our imagination trend on.Folly is sharing in the deception that one can acquire it in one day.It is trying,trying,trying,and not getting tired.

The Battle Of Genders…

The world revolves around two most influential entities, that is the male and the female. The two co-exist harmoniously though always in a ‘hunt’ for each other. They are ever in a silent battle. One that seems to never come to an end any sooner. The male always targeting the female and the female making the male its prey. Interestingly, is how they both do their hoax and coax in the battle field. The tricks of ‘combat’ makes every scene of the battle interesting and sumptuous.

It all begins at a very early stage of parenting, don’t ask me whether am teaching how to parent, am just a keen observer of the nitty-gritty from which i draw credible conclusions in line with the laid facts.

Take for instance, a case of a little boy and a girl in the same family…the baby girl is always given more attention. On seeing these, the baby boy responds by being a rebel and a bully to the sister. While the boy is told not to cry and its unmanly to cry, the baby-girl is soothed,given a warm rub on her back,and even asked to say what she wants.It all starts at our families.

Getting to school, the intellectual battle begins.The drama of boys are better than girls is set on.The dudes looking fierce to their counter-parts to prove a point to the females. On the other hand, ladies are all ready to prove them wrong.It is in these stage that things such as bullying,molesting, sexual harassment are seen prominently.It does not end hear,the ‘movie’ continues to unravel.Best scenes ahead.

Narrowing down to our social interactions in our day to day, the battle royale unfolds further. Looking at what behaviour is displayed by people in their local joints or in their favourite lounges, you will agree with me that the two sexes are ever in constant ‘fight’ fighting for recognition, fame,popularity,equality, status-quo,ego, power e.t.c.

A guy comes in a joint to at least have some few shots, he finds some fairly pretty ladies dressed seductively, whining and twerking their butt on the dance floor.They excitedly exchange some flirty greetings as they both affirm of how hot they look in their outfits.Without wasting much time they are sand-witched in the dancing crowd.With their sweaty faces, they chuck out to grab a drink.All along, their intentions are unclear to each other, but individually, both know what they are after.The guy is generous enough to buy as many drinks as possible, the lady is all smiles ‘chopping’ his money. The dude is quietly happy that the ‘prey’ is falling in the trap and soon will be a good catch for the day.

Both,trying to set up each other and at the same time,playing to be best of friends who the earth’s axis has just made it possible for them to meet.The  aim of the guy is to get to the ladies pants, while the lady is after chopping the guys money.

However,this is also evident in place of work.This is mostly seen where the boss is a female,all the gents feel like they are being ‘sat on’ and they lack their breathing space.They feel intimidated to be getting orders from a female boss.This worsens in the event the boss seems to be smarter than those who think they could make a better leader.One thing that is known to with women bosses, is that they don’t give room for sheer nonsense and always like things to be done in a legitimate manner upholding the virtues and morals. Contrally, men like to enjoy some kind of space where they can ‘breathe’ and these brings all the difference.

Whereas the fight continues silently,both sexes need each other. No matter the rift that exist’s with least of notice,the difference brings them together, none can boast of being in full control of the other,none can solely depend on themselves and this makes it even more interesting.The world is big but then it narrows to two individuals,two determinants,two sexes, that is male and female,man and wife.

The differences in how both male and female process their thoughts,how they perceive things does not give any justification to discriminate any of  them, nor should we bash one gender with praises of how better they are than the other.Both genders are entitled to acknowledge that,they may be different but have a common purpose, and that is to propagate life and not to always take part in their ‘un-ending’ war of superiority.